Developing A Good Tolerance Of People

Just about everybody knows and understands that people are different. It is difficult to say what is good and bad about a person because it is usually just different and out of the spectrum of what you may consider normal. Of course there are limits, but learning that your limit is different from another is a key to finding what works best for you. You may consider a male member of her family tagging along on your dates as a bit ridiculous and a time waster. But to her and her family it is simply common practice. If you have an attraction to this person you will need to become tolerant of that persons belief until the practice ends.

Tolerance Turns To A Waste Of Time

There are limits to tolerance. You would like to get to now a person but their personal issues, no matter how generous you have been, are beginning to get in the way of your personal needs. If you feel that you have been more then reasonable with their needs, you may need to consider moving on because those tolerances are leading nowhere and becoming a waste of your time. In many respects, if you reach this point it also says that that person has no respect for you and your time.

Learn To Laugh

In some instances, it is best that you have a certain sense of humor. When a date goes from bad to absurd you just need to be able to laugh. There is absolutely no shame in this at all. Just flat out laugh. You are getting nothing from what you are doing so find something to take away from the situation. Take away a laugh. If you can do it away from the other person it would be nice but if you simply cannot keep from laughing go for it. From this perspective you are at least taking away a laugh and not completely wasting your time. You will likely appear rude and uncaring but if it is that ridiculous the person has likely had it happen before. Do, however, try to laugh out of ear shot.

Nothing Is Really A Time Waster

In the heat/boredom of the moment you are sure to feel like the whole situation is a huge waste of time, and it likely is from an “I could be doing something else” point of view. But, look at the event as a learning and tolerance building experience. This can be a defense mechanism to keep you from repeating the same set of choices that got you there in the first place. Was this situation a waste of time? Maybe it was and…maybe it was not.