7 Key Rules of Dating

7 Key Rules of Dating

The awkwardness of the first few dates has begun to ware off .Now is not the time to let down on some of the key rules of dating. Keep these rules in mind so that you can keep your dates fresh and fun.

Always look your best

As you start to feel a bit more comfortable with this person the impulse to slack off on your appearance may immerge. Perhaps you start to wear older more comfortable clothes. Resist this urge and try to stay sharp and fresh. This applies to young and old alike. You can be just as sharp and fresh in teenage wear as you can with a little black dress or sport coat.

Be yourself, but not too much

It is one thing to show off that Sunday morning sweat pants look and donkey laugh after you have been dating for awhile but don’t advertise it up front. You want to show that, starting to become, special person who you really are but just not all at once. Showing who you really are will naturally come out without you knowing it, so why try to hide it?

Leave a little mystery

Most people will tell you this but never really let you know what it means. What it really means is that you may want to select a few of your positive quirks/talents and show them off at the right moments. One example from my history includes a date jumping into a parade to start twirling a baton with a marching band. Who would have thought!

The no-no’s

This rule is the one to follow very closely as it is the one that will save you from ending the relationship very quickly. The no no’s include discussing marriage, children and past relationships. There is something to finding out about children, sooner rather then later, but don’t rush toward it. If you happen to be a woman with a clicking biological clock work in the discussion after a reasonable amount of time (not number of dates.)

Use open ended questions

Remember, you are trying to find out a bit about this person. You do not want to have conversations that are stop oriented. The first thing that you will notice about a date is that they may always end up talking about themselves without including you. Try to finish a thought that lets the other person speak.

Don’t work to hard

Trying to hard shows like a sore thumb. Try to relax and go with whatever may happen. You can try to script a date all you want but, generally, it will appear contrived. The person you are dating obviously sees something in you so let them find it, whatever it may be.

Be unique

All this be yourself and don’t hide things is all well and good but if a certain spark of excitement isn’t there you may as well fold up your tent. Try and be unique. Go on exciting and unusual outings like a sunrise hot air balloon ride or cocktails in a hayfield. Anything that the other person might enjoy and associate with you.